What’s your Seduction IQ? Take this quiz

If know your seduction quotient (S.Q.) – it’s like your I.Q, but a measure for how sexually compatible you are with different types of men.

When you know what you have to offer it makes it easier to get what you want.

It does make a big difference!

Do you have a specific one in mind? If not, I suggest you find one, picking a man at random is a  recipe for disaster, and letting a man pick you isn’t always much better.

The best advice you will ever get on how to attract a man, won’t come from your friends, but from your grandmothers. Let’s face it, long before women’s lib, psychology or eHarmony, our ancestress had thousands of years to figure out what made men tick and how to get them to sit up and take notice.

For all that arranged marriages were popular in many cultures and many time periods, the dance of attraction has taken place every where unmarried adults gathered in any numbers. And until recent years, the tricks that were used to attract a man were passed down in village stories and palace gossip. Today, that entertainment has been replaced by the exploits of Brittney Spears, which have far less to teach us about how to attract a man.

The best of what used to be taught through the village gossip was how to make a man chase you. After all, it wasn’t considered proper for a girl to approach a guy, so our grandmothers and great-grandmothers had to man the men come for them. And because of the way men think, it still works.

Men, even more then women, like to be in control, and feel that they are directing their lives. This is why they resist asking for directions, and always insist they know where they are going. A man will be attracted to a woman that he needs, to go after himself, rather then one that throws herself at him. It gives him the feeling of being in control of his actions, rather then being pushed into something.

So how do you make a man come after you? It takes a bit more then playing hard to get. First, you need to make a man notice you. Dress your best, be friendly, flirt a little bit, but not too much. When he has noticed you, be polite, be friendly, but be a little bit distant. Don’t go looking for him, be around him, bump into him now and again, but for the most part make him come to you.

Learning how to attract a man by not going after him can take some work, it isn’t a skill most women know anymore. But if you can learn it, it will work better then almost anything else you can try. After all, a couple thousand years of test generates some pretty strong evidence.

There is a lot of information available to help you understand the men around you. Why not make use of it? Check out http://www.relationshipguide.org/howtoattractmen to learn how to attract a man now!

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By Christie Griffin

What’s your Seduction IQ?

Do you ever go out sometimes and feel like guys aren’t giving you the attention you deserve, and you can’t figure out why?

That used to happen to me too. Then I became a part-time “wingwoman” — a girl who helps guys meet chicks in bars by posing as the guys’ platonic female friend. (Wingwoman services are available in many cities, including New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Dallas, Miami, and Saint Louis.)

While earning my wings, I learned lots of little ways to seduce a man easy. Warning: Once you perfect these moves, you might find that you’re such a powerful man-magnet, you attract guys everywhere. I used to date a guy who asked me out at the ATM!

Wingtip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three.
Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.

Wingtip #2: Hold a drink in your hand.
Guys don’t want to be used. Meaning: They don’t want to buy you a drink right off the bat. My clients and I used to look for the girl with half a cocktail. That way, if she finishes her beverage while chatting with my guy, he could offer to buy her another to keep things moving.

Wingtip #3: Smile genuinely.
So obvious, right? But I can’t stress it enough — and I can’t believe I ever acted aloof in an attempt to seem sexier. Now I know that women smile all the time naturally (when we’re nervous, when we’re trying to be polite, etc.), so if you don’t do it at all, you look like an unapproachable bitch.

Wingtip #4: Work the eye contact.
To seduce him in from across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them — it makes them feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won’t be able to tell the difference.

Wingtip #5: Don’t immediately ask him what he does.
Some men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of my clients hated being asked what their job is. It’s that fear-of-being-used thing again.

Wingtip #6 Make positive small talk if you really want to [tag]seduce him[/tag].

Once I started studying other women, I couldn’t believe how negative some of us appear. When you’re out on the town, you’re supposed to be having fun, and any complaint (“It’s hot in here!”), pessimism (“There will definitely be another terrorist attack”), or snarky quip (“Look at that chick’s belt — so 2002!”) pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations, favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark world-view some other time.

Married couples are two different individuals fused in one so disagreement leading to a quarrel is bound to occur in a marriage. Quarreling and argument is a result exceeding a limit in trying to make a point, push forward an idea or decision. While quarrels are common occurrences in a [tag]marriage[/tag], it’s not always good for spouses to quarrel.

Most quarrels come out of discussions that turn bad. These kind of quarrels are most common but avoidable. Left un-amended, a quarrel can create sore feeling with the aggrieved spouse.

Get Over It – Pretend nothing happened. Try to put yourself away from any bad feelings the quarrel arose. Do this and in time you’ll continue from where you left off.

Give Positive Body Language – By way of bodily language that depicts love, care and remorse, express yourself to your spouse so they know you feel sorry – without necessarily saying it. Positive body language includes smiling, and providing affections of love which both spouses formerly engage in.

Feel Remorse – A quarrel that goes untreated is never good for a marriage. A spouse should feel sorry for being the one to fuel the quarrel. Conceding to your spouse does not demean you in anyway, let your spouse know you feel sorry and if any harsh words were said, offer your sincere apologies. You can also demand an apology from your spouse.

Think about It – Both spouses involved should think on the points proposed by the other. Doing this will help each spouse analyze points there were in support of thereby drawing them nearer to deciding which is best for both spouses.

Do not Keep Malice – Quarrels, misunderstandings are constant happenings in a marriage. Keeping malice with your spouse may only serve to aggravate the situation. Many wives feel their husbands should be the one to initiate conversation after a quarrel but this isn’t necessarily so. Any of either party can decide to initiate conversation if only to promote peace and prevent the situation from further degeneration.

Quarrels and disagreements are two different issues. It’s not always necessary to quarrel with a [tag-tec]spouse[/tag-tec] in order to get yourself heard; quarrels rarely achieve the purpose for which they begin. Rather, spouses engage in healthy discussion while looking to drive home a point. If any disagreements occur, time should be given for both spouses to think over the issue discussed – a quarrel will almost always arise when an immediate response is demanded on a disagreed topic.

Quarrels once in a while can lead both spouses to understanding each other, but its happening frequently may be the beginning of the disintegration of a marriage.

There are ways to seduce a man while helping to eliminate any thoughts of infidelity on his mind. These effective ways to keep a man interested can also become effective ways to make your man break up with you once you do the opposite of what they say.

Have it at the back of your mind that finding [tag]ways to seduce a man[/tag] and keeping your man happy and interested is not as hard as people make it sound.

Most of the ways to seduce a man can be incorporated into your lifestyle and you make them a part of you.

Be Friendly with his Friends – Men like it when their own friends admire their girlfriend. You can be sure he’ll like you more when this happens. In doing this, you must not engage in any flirty or compromising situations as that will make your boyfriend jealous and angry – that’s not what you want.

An advantage you might to think of for becoming friendly with your man’s friends is that you’ll become friends with their girlfriends or females in their lives. Following this step means making more friends with who you can share girly and relationship tips.

Be Confident and Bold – Boldness on your part can leave your man happier and more confident in your relationship. You should be flexible with this as there are many ways to seduce a man and show boldness in a relationship. Men generally do not like relationships in which the woman is laid back and needs to be pushed all the time. They prefer confident and bold women who are able to show boldness whenever the need arises.

Say Nice Words – Tell him how much you admire him and how sexy you think he is. Do not leave the “I love you’s” to your man alone. It is necessary for you to allow your man say nice words more often than you do but when you do not say them at all, it’ll give him the impression that you are longer interested in the relationship. Men like it when they women reverberate on their masculine abilities.

Keep Him Satisfied – Always remember you are still in that relationship for a reason. Once you start failing to fulfill such reason, the likelihood of your relationship succeeding is reduced. Find a way to keep your man satisfied with you and not have to seek consolation with another woman.

Sexual happiness is a vital part to the success of any relationship. Dress to impress, wear sexually attractive perfumes, and make sure everything about you is near perfect when using these ways to seduce a man.

A man’s interest in his woman is usually high when he is able to boast about you with his friends.

Many single women today are women who’ve worked so hard to become successful in their careers or businesses. They’ve learned the hard way that success doesn’t come without them taking control of situations and making it happen.

They have taken this great attitude into their dating and love lives too and are not just content sitting around and waiting for a relationship to just happen.

The problem is that no matter what they try — flirting, complimenting, going out a lot more than most other people, hanging around dating sites just trying to meet more men, writing poetic emails, and even “coaching” men, nothing meaningful happens. Initial interest and a couple of dates and then it’s downhill from there. And sometimes there are very long stretches during which nobody’s asking them out.

Now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with going out to meet men and I have personally written a couple of articles about women taking the initiative to approach men and ask them out but there is a difference between “trying too hard” and “making it happen” naturally.

REAL men — the kind that strong successful independent women want — are innately programmed to be hunters; they love the thrill of the chase (real or imagined) and are put off by women who are acting desperate or “trying too hard”. Unfortunately, most women never learn, so they keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

1. [tag]Approaching a man[/tag] to see if there is some chemistry there is making it happen. (You may want to read my article: Why Women Who Wait For A Man To Make The First Move Lose The Man. Article can be found in the Articles Section of my website, under Assertive Dating category).

Being sexually aggressive and trying to sexually entice a man you hardly know is “trying too hard”. It turns decent men off and attracts those who just want sex. Sexually healthy women are aggressive from libido (and with men they know well), not from a twisted outlook on sexuality, men or power trips. Decent men are intrigued by a woman who is willing and able to talk about sex in a subtle and meaningful way, not one who is coming onto them like you-know-what on heat.

2. Giving him your telephone number/email address and telling him, “call me” or “email me” is making it happen. Contacting him after you’ve given him your number and told him “call me” or “email me” is “trying too hard”.

See, if a guy really likes you, he’ll still remember to call you even after his mother’s funeral. If he is really into you and for some reason he lost your number, he will call your company receptionist and ask for your extension. If he doesn’t know where you work, he’ll contact all the people he thinks know you (the people you were with at the party when he met you) and if that fails he’ll go through all the listings on the Yellow Pages that have your last name on it. If that fails too, he’ll hang around places he thinks he’ll meet you again. That’s just how a man who really is interested in a woman is – the process of “chasing” you down is part of the hunting game. But PLEASE do not think that you just chanced upon one more “technique” for playing- hard- to- get and refuse to give the man you are really into your contact. What if everything fails and he really can’t find you?

3. Calling him for a first date is making it happen. Calling him to thank him for the date or just to see how he is doing, just once, is common courtesy. Calling him for the second date is “trying too hard”. If you are doing all asking and arranging of dates, if you are making more phone calls and if you are emailing more emails than you receive, or if you are the one traveling distances to meet guys you meet online, you are “trying too hard”. If you have to pursue a guy who you’ve already had a first date with or feel that you’ve given him enough reason to come after you (which he hasn’t), you are “trying too hard”.

4. Seducing a man with experiences that show him glimpses of what a life with you is like, experiences that make him think of you in the shower, on the way to work, during office hours, days, weeks and even years later is making it happen. Sitting by the telephone you don’t pick up when it rings, and playing coy games like pretending to be busy to make yourself “scarce” in the hope that he’ll be more interested is “trying too hard”. If a man is not inspired enough to chase you, making yourself “scarce” only makes you “forgettable” (too quickly) and interchangeable (for someone more inspiring). But if you’ve created very strong “emotions” in him (excitement, arousal, deep sense peace or self-growth), those emotions keep the pleasant feelings he associates with you alive in his memory, and he can revive or relive the pleasant feelings whenever he wants it – and mostly when you are not around. The stronger the emotion, the more lasting the memory, and the more lasting the memory the stronger the attraction towards you.

5. Speaking up and asking for more, in say, a casual dating relationship or asking to meet in person if you’ve been chatting with him online is making it happen. Demanding for more than he can give or is prepared to give, or threatening to break up with him hoping that you’ll scare him to action, or actually breaking up with him when a ‘relationship’ has barely started and pretending to have a hard time letting go is “trying too hard”.

He may be initially startled because no one enjoys the feeling of rejection, but not even the fear of rejection will make a man already NOT interested to suddenly become so interested that he’ll be all over you. After the feeling of rejection settles in, he will be the one to break up with you – for good. A majority of men (emotionally stable or otherwise) can not handle the pressures that comes with “we’re-on-and-we’re-off-again” stupid games.

I could go on and on about the differences between “trying too hard” and “making it happen” naturally. The bottom line is that if after the first date or couple of first dates, he has doubts about you/relationship, he says he needs to take some time for himself, he wants to try things out with an ex or just doesn’t ever return your phone call, LEAVE HIM ALONE. If you have to fight to break down his resistance, the mere fact that there is resistance in the first place is a red flag signal. If you feel that you are THE ONLY ONE working too hard (and he is not doing much) to make the relationship work you’ve already seen what the future looks like.

A woman operating from personal power and self-love does not need to force or manipulate a man to be with her or love her. She inspires men with WHO SHE IS! And once they’ve tested the “honey” that she is, they’ll come looking for it. That’s just the way men are!

About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of e-Books: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness, Breaking A Bad Relationships Pattern, and Playing Hard-To-Get The Love Way.

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