Once it’s over it’s over. Says who? Have you ever heard of “The Magic of Making Up“?

It is over when you are ready for it to be over, no matter what that is. If it’s your relationship then you have a little bit of work ahead of you, but “no pain, no gain”, right?

So go ahead and put your plan together.

First pull yourself together, you need it for this. The next step is to put together a list with pro and con for your man and pro and cons for your relationship. Think about what didn’t go the way it should have and what you could have done differently.

After carefully considering each and every aspect of your former relationship, start building a new one. Clearly the way the relationship went before did not work out the way you wanted and hoped, so now it has to be different for it to have a chance of  success.

What are his favorite things to do?

• which sport he enjoys watching and/or playing
• ice-cream flavor
• favorite movie
• does he love his car?
• does he love to be social or stay home and relax?

Now it’s all about him. You have to finally make time for him in your life. You have to make sure that you listen to him and know exactly what he wants and what he’s asking for and not what you think he might want (that did not work well before).

Leave the past behind. If you’re not ready to do that, you are not ready for a new loving relationship with him.

Seduce him. Bring the fire back into your love life. This is going to be exciting for both of you.

Make sure you have your own life, too. There’s nothing scarier to a man than a woman who has no life except for him. He will run and never look back.

Have genuine fun with your girlfriends, make one evening of the week – girls’ night.

Let him wonder what you are doing and how come you are having fun without him. It will intrigue him and make him think of you and that is exactly what you want.

Remember, life is supposed to be fun and there’s nothing more attractive in this world than a fun loving woman. Be the Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave

So you want to know how to attract a man.

What’s your Seduction IQ? Take this quiz

If know your seduction quotient (S.Q.) – it’s like your I.Q, but a measure for how sexually compatible you are with different types of men.

When you know what you have to offer it makes it easier to get what you want.

It does make a big difference!

Do you have a specific one in mind? If not, I suggest you find one, picking a man at random is a  recipe for disaster, and letting a man pick you isn’t always much better.

The best advice you will ever get on how to attract a man, won’t come from your friends, but from your grandmothers. Let’s face it, long before women’s lib, psychology or eHarmony, our ancestress had thousands of years to figure out what made men tick and how to get them to sit up and take notice.

For all that arranged marriages were popular in many cultures and many time periods, the dance of attraction has taken place every where unmarried adults gathered in any numbers. And until recent years, the tricks that were used to attract a man were passed down in village stories and palace gossip. Today, that entertainment has been replaced by the exploits of Brittney Spears, which have far less to teach us about how to attract a man.

The best of what used to be taught through the village gossip was how to make a man chase you. After all, it wasn’t considered proper for a girl to approach a guy, so our grandmothers and great-grandmothers had to man the men come for them. And because of the way men think, it still works.

Men, even more then women, like to be in control, and feel that they are directing their lives. This is why they resist asking for directions, and always insist they know where they are going. A man will be attracted to a woman that he needs, to go after himself, rather then one that throws herself at him. It gives him the feeling of being in control of his actions, rather then being pushed into something.

So how do you make a man come after you? It takes a bit more then playing hard to get. First, you need to make a man notice you. Dress your best, be friendly, flirt a little bit, but not too much. When he has noticed you, be polite, be friendly, but be a little bit distant. Don’t go looking for him, be around him, bump into him now and again, but for the most part make him come to you.

Learning how to attract a man by not going after him can take some work, it isn’t a skill most women know anymore. But if you can learn it, it will work better then almost anything else you can try. After all, a couple thousand years of test generates some pretty strong evidence.

There is a lot of information available to help you understand the men around you. Why not make use of it? Check out http://www.relationshipguide.org/howtoattractmen to learn how to attract a man now!

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A girl who got paid to help guys meet women shares her insights into what motivates men to make a move.

By Christie Griffin

What’s your Seduction IQ?

Do you ever go out sometimes and feel like guys aren’t giving you the attention you deserve, and you can’t figure out why?

That used to happen to me too. Then I became a part-time “wingwoman” — a girl who helps guys meet chicks in bars by posing as the guys’ platonic female friend. (Wingwoman services are available in many cities, including New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Dallas, Miami, and Saint Louis.)

While earning my wings, I learned lots of little ways to seduce a man easy. Warning: Once you perfect these moves, you might find that you’re such a powerful man-magnet, you attract guys everywhere. I used to date a guy who asked me out at the ATM!

Wingtip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three.
Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.

Wingtip #2: Hold a drink in your hand.
Guys don’t want to be used. Meaning: They don’t want to buy you a drink right off the bat. My clients and I used to look for the girl with half a cocktail. That way, if she finishes her beverage while chatting with my guy, he could offer to buy her another to keep things moving.

Wingtip #3: Smile genuinely.
So obvious, right? But I can’t stress it enough — and I can’t believe I ever acted aloof in an attempt to seem sexier. Now I know that women smile all the time naturally (when we’re nervous, when we’re trying to be polite, etc.), so if you don’t do it at all, you look like an unapproachable bitch.

Wingtip #4: Work the eye contact.
To seduce him in from across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them — it makes them feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won’t be able to tell the difference.

Wingtip #5: Don’t immediately ask him what he does.
Some men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of my clients hated being asked what their job is. It’s that fear-of-being-used thing again.

Wingtip #6 Make positive small talk if you really want to [tag]seduce him[/tag].

Once I started studying other women, I couldn’t believe how negative some of us appear. When you’re out on the town, you’re supposed to be having fun, and any complaint (“It’s hot in here!”), pessimism (“There will definitely be another terrorist attack”), or snarky quip (“Look at that chick’s belt — so 2002!”) pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations, favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark world-view some other time.