How to Initiate Conversation with your Spouse after a Quarrel
Married couples are two different individuals fused in one so disagreement leading to a quarrel is bound to occur in a marriage. Quarreling and argument is a result exceeding a limit in trying to make a point, push forward an idea or decision. While quarrels are common occurrences in a [tag]marriage[/tag], it’s not always good for spouses to quarrel.
Most quarrels come out of discussions that turn bad. These kind of quarrels are most common but avoidable. Left un-amended, a quarrel can create sore feeling with the aggrieved spouse.
Get Over It – Pretend nothing happened. Try to put yourself away from any bad feelings the quarrel arose. Do this and in time you’ll continue from where you left off.
Give Positive Body Language – By way of bodily language that depicts love, care and remorse, express yourself to your spouse so they know you feel sorry – without necessarily saying it. Positive body language includes smiling, and providing affections of love which both spouses formerly engage in.
Feel Remorse – A quarrel that goes untreated is never good for a marriage. A spouse should feel sorry for being the one to fuel the quarrel. Conceding to your spouse does not demean you in anyway, let your spouse know you feel sorry and if any harsh words were said, offer your sincere apologies. You can also demand an apology from your spouse.
Think about It – Both spouses involved should think on the points proposed by the other. Doing this will help each spouse analyze points there were in support of thereby drawing them nearer to deciding which is best for both spouses.
Do not Keep Malice – Quarrels, misunderstandings are constant happenings in a marriage. Keeping malice with your spouse may only serve to aggravate the situation. Many wives feel their husbands should be the one to initiate conversation after a quarrel but this isn’t necessarily so. Any of either party can decide to initiate conversation if only to promote peace and prevent the situation from further degeneration.
Quarrels and disagreements are two different issues. It’s not always necessary to quarrel with a [tag-tec]spouse[/tag-tec] in order to get yourself heard; quarrels rarely achieve the purpose for which they begin. Rather, spouses engage in healthy discussion while looking to drive home a point. If any disagreements occur, time should be given for both spouses to think over the issue discussed – a quarrel will almost always arise when an immediate response is demanded on a disagreed topic.
Quarrels once in a while can lead both spouses to understanding each other, but its happening frequently may be the beginning of the disintegration of a marriage.