Says who? I hate when therapists tell you to “listen what he is say…blah blah!” As you may know, men never say what they mean, or think what they feel!

Have you ever heard of “The Magic of Making Up”?

It is over when you are ready for it to be over, no matter what that is. If it’s your relationship then you have a little bit of work ahead of you, but “no pain, no gain”, right?

So go ahead and put your plan together.

First pull yourself together, you need it for this. The next step is to put together a list with pro and con for your man and pro and cons for your relationship. Think about what didn’t go the way it should have and what you could have done differently.

After carefully considering each and every aspect of your former relationship, start building a new one. Clearly the way the relationship went before did not work out the way you wanted and hoped, so now it has to be different for it to have a chance of  success.

What are his favorite things to do?

• which sport he enjoys watching and/or playing
• ice-cream flavor
• favorite movie
• does he love his car?
• does he love to be social or stay home and relax?

Now it’s all about him. You have to finally make time for him in your life. You have to make sure that you listen to him and know exactly what he wants and what he’s asking for and not what you think he might want (that did not work well before).

Leave the past behind. If you’re not ready to do that, you are not ready for a new loving relationship with him.

Seduce him. Bring the fire back into your love life. This is going to be exciting for both of you.

Make sure you have your own life, too. There’s nothing scarier to a man than a woman who has no life except for him. He will run and never look back.

Have genuine fun with your girlfriends, make one evening of the week – girls’ night.

Let him wonder what you are doing and how come you are having fun without him. It will intrigue him and make him think of you and that is exactly what you want.

Remember, life is supposed to be fun and there’s nothing more attractive in this world than a fun loving woman. Be the Woman Men Adore and Never Want to Leave

By Christie Griffin

What’s your Seduction IQ?

Do you ever go out sometimes and feel like guys aren’t giving you the attention you deserve, and you can’t figure out why?

That used to happen to me too. Then I became a part-time “wingwoman” — a girl who helps guys meet chicks in bars by posing as the guys’ platonic female friend. (Wingwoman services are available in many cities, including New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Dallas, Miami, and Saint Louis.)

While earning my wings, I learned lots of little ways to seduce a man easy. Warning: Once you perfect these moves, you might find that you’re such a powerful man-magnet, you attract guys everywhere. I used to date a guy who asked me out at the ATM!

Wingtip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three.
Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.

Wingtip #2: Hold a drink in your hand.
Guys don’t want to be used. Meaning: They don’t want to buy you a drink right off the bat. My clients and I used to look for the girl with half a cocktail. That way, if she finishes her beverage while chatting with my guy, he could offer to buy her another to keep things moving.

Wingtip #3: Smile genuinely.
So obvious, right?

But I can’t stress it enough — and I can’t believe I ever acted aloof in an attempt to seem sexier. Now I know that women smile all the time naturally (when we’re nervous, when we’re trying to be polite, etc.), so if you don’t do it at all, you look like an unapproachable bitch.

Wingtip #4: Work the eye contact.
To seduce him in from across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them — it makes them feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won’t be able to tell the difference.

Wingtip #5: Don’t immediately ask him what he does.
Some men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of my clients hated being asked what their job is. It’s that fear-of-being-used thing again.

Wingtip #6 Make positive small talk if you really want to [tag]seduce him[/tag].

Once I started studying other women, I couldn’t believe how negative some of us appear. When you’re out on the town, you’re supposed to be having fun, and any complaint (“It’s hot in here!”), pessimism (“There will definitely be another terrorist attack”), or snarky quip (“Look at that chick’s belt — so 2002!”) pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations, favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark world-view some other time.

Be Unpredictable – Men generally prefer unpredictable women than the opposite. Been unpredictable is better applied when you already are in a relationship. Take out some days to do things that your man has never seen you do.

It might be a special dish he isn’t aware of or a surprise you can pull up on him. Men have the potential to be seduced by the unpredictable nature of a woman.

Be Sexy – Being sexy includes wearing sexy clothes when he’s around and putting on sexually arousing perfume. Men like sexy women. You probably have some be sexy tips up there already so combine that with what you’ve learned here and be sure your man will be seduced easily.

Have Fun – Think of better ways to be fun. During a conversation, you should be conversational and have a good sense of humor. If you already are in a relationship, create new ideas on funs things to do with your man in order to [tag]seduce him[/tag].

Be in charge – Men love it when their women are able to take control of certain situations. When it comes to a certain situation and you feel you are better able to handle such situation, be confident, and take charge of such situation.

Being in charge doesn’t imply you should be bossy. Being bossy can be irritating to a man and that is not the emotion you want to arouse when you are trying come up with easy ways to seduce a man.

Whether its your boyfriend or husband you wish to seduce, seduction is a good way to improve your relations with a male.